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Ep 143 Is your Extreme Independence a Trauma Response?

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In this episode, Jen invites you to join her in a conversation around independence. She deep dives into how you have shown up into extreme independence in your life and if this is related to a trauma response.

Key Notes:

  • The different reasons why we become extremely independent

  • How extreme independence is a result of a need for safety and to feel valued

  • How extreme independence doesn’t invite vulnerability

  • How did you become extremely independent?

Show Notes:

(00:50) What this week’s episode is about

(03:17) How most of our behaviors that we embody through our life are the result or our childhood experiences

(06:37) How one of the most common threads that Jen noticed is a need for safety

(09:07) How extreme independence often comes from a need of safety and a lack of trust

(11:38) Where has seeking for approval externally gotten you?

(12:20) How your extreme independence is your survival strategy

(15:15) How extreme independence can be a result of lack of trust

(17:47) Jen invites you to journal about extreme independence if it resonates about you

Quotes:

(09:00) It can look very different on the outside than how we experience it in the inside

(10:20) We choose to align our actions with our values, not our wounds, not our needs, but our values.

(10:33) Live your life by who you’re becoming, not who you’ve been

(16:24) The attachment that we had being extremely independent has hurt us in some ways

(17:23) Have the gratitude for the courage and the strength that you have to be independent

Links Mentioned:

13 Moons of Devotion: https://www.jenmons.com/13moons-of-devotion

Resources:

Website: https://www.jenmons.com/ 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JenMonsCoaching 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jen.mons/ 

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXFG_uyCRg9nxM43jS9mvUg 

Prosperity: https://www.jenmons.com/prosperity 

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